The Journey




Week 8 – A Little Behind in My Work

Hello all.  I have fallen behind in my classwork for the MKE.  That’s the bad news.  On the upside, I am extremely clear on my intent to move forward.  I’ve also learned that being required to blog for this course is not for me.  I’d much rather create content for my course on mental health and meditation.

As a matter of fact, that’s exactly what I’m going to do.

Week 7 – The Law of Substitution

Greetings to all.  The Law of Substitution may have saved my life.  Okay, that’s a bit dramatic.  Let me try to explain.  What exactly is the Law of Substitution?

Have you ever had a thought that turned into a judgment?  With the judgment, you put feeling – anger, sadness, surprise etc.  It doesn’t really matter the emotion.  Before you know it, your thoughts are off the rails and you’ve totally gotten lost in your head.

The Law of Substitution is like a reset button.  It allows you to acknowledge the thought before it becomes a judgment or has feeling attached.  Immediately you substitute another thought.  Example – Your child broke your favorite lamp.  It was a wedding gift.  Before you can react with dismay or anger, you acknowledge that your child broke the lamp.  Then you completely change gears and think, It is such a beautiful day outside!

Sounds crazy, right?  I personally substitute “I am” statements.  My own personal example…Let’s say my knee hurts after exercising.  I acknowledge my knee hurts.  Then I change the subject.  I say, “I am a great singer.”

This exercise in mis-direction interrupts the pattern.  By following up with “I am” statements, it brings me back to the present moment.  I like being on point and not lost in my head.  This technique really works and I encourage you to try it.

Week 6 – Visualizing the Me I Want to Be

So, if thoughts create reality, it stands to reason that we should visualize our ideal future as often as possible.  This week’s MKE lesson was all about zeroing in on our Definite Major Purpose in life (our Dharma).  We’ve actually been honing in on the Dharma for weeks now.  This week it was time to “put in in pictures” and make it 3D.

Toward that end, we have each made a picture board.  The difference between this board and others is that this one has definite dates of completion and awards for accomplishing certain goals in a certain time frame.

I’m torn with this week’s assignment.  While I’m “all in” to the class, I believe from a spiritual standpoint that certain things can’t be rushed at the expense of learning some of life’s lessons.  I’m going to keep this post short and ponder my next steps.

Week 4 – The Flow of Affluence



In my last blog, I related how one’s thoughts can be “disciplined” by focus and forming good habits.  At the risk of repeating myself, the reason we care is that thoughts control our reality.  Most of us (I’m assuming here) would prefer a great reality over a crappy reality.

Moving forward….This week’s Master Key lesson was all about the flow of affluence. We’ve all heard that it’s better to give than receive.  The Master Key Experience (MKE) suggests that it’s just as important to be a good receiver as a good giver.  Let me explain in a little more detail.

From a biblical perspective, Luke 6:38 (ESV) states,”Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”  From a universe perspective, energy is dynamically exchanged in everything that we do.  If all we ever do is give, we feel depleted.  It’s important that we are able to receive: love, money, gifts of spirit, with as much zest as we give.

Okay, so what’s this flow of affluence?  It was a surprise to me that these four principles are what I’ve been practicing since I began meditating a few years back.  For the sake of brevity, I am going to simplify from the course:

  1. Give a “gift” to everyone you encounter – could be a smile, compliment, flowers etc.
  2. Be a thankful “receiver” – notice nature’s beauty, a smile from someone and be thankful.
  3. Give hope to all.
  4. Give without expectation of reciprocity.

To me, #4 is particularly important.  Giving should not be to manipulate that which we might get back.  What we give, always comes back – not necessarily from the same source.  Remember that you “reap what you sow,” or “what goes around comes around.”

….And the cow in the picture is a metaphor for me, wait for it……Out standing in my field.











Week 3 – I Form Good Habits and Become Their Slave


Personal discipline.  If, as I claim in my last blog, thoughts create reality, then how am I to control those thoughts for the most positive outcome?  As suggested in Og Mandino’s book, The Greatest Salesman in the World, “I form good habits and become their slave.”

Controlling your thoughts so that they remain positive requires a lot of mental energy – possibly too much.  The thought in Mandino’s book is that if you create a new, good, habit, repeating it on a daily basis will relegate it to your subconscious and it will soon be done with ease.  This might be an exercise regimen of working out at the gym every morning, quiet meditation, etc.  The point is…..a good habit becomes easier to do with less mental energy involved if it is practiced on a daily basis.

What good habits, may you ask, did I create along this journey?  I actually created several.  Three times daily, I read out loud, a major purpose (life goal) that I have handwritten.  Additionally, I committed to improve my health with 40 minutes of daily meditation and 1/2 hr of daily exercise.  Between you, me, and the wall, I cheated on the meditation part.  I only cheated insofar as I’ve already been meditating regularly for the last couple of years.  It’s truly one of my best habits!

Where, may you ask, do good habits get me?  Glad you asked!!  These good, healthy, habits lead to laser focus.  I’m focused on my life goal.  I “see” the world more creatively.  I’m not a control freak any longer.  I realize that when I have thoughts, the universe acknowledges those thoughts and helps bring them to fruition.  I see possibilities that I may not have seen before.  ****Really important to note here.  Keep your thoughts positive because that’s what you want to attract.  If your thoughts are negative, guess what?  The Law of Attraction works both ways.

Check out the picture.  Most people, including me, only saw a dead tree trunk along the path that I walk.  Last week, there appeared this most beautiful carving of wildlife.  Obviously, someone saw possibilities…




Week 2 – Thoughts Control Our Reality

IMG_0143Last week, I mentioned the Master Key Experience (MKE).  Lest you think that this is a sales pitch, let me make something clear.  The MKE is an intense online graduate level course in personal development.  One does not and cannot pay for this course.  I received an invitation.  The business model is based on the premise: Pay it forward.  Last year’s class paid for my scholarship.

As part of the course, I am REQUIRED to blog weekly.  This is part of the personal development – to document thoughts and experiences.  This blog represents the genesis of my new approach to life.

Thoughts control our reality.  Most human beings  go about their daily business,  responding to “life” as it happens. Here are some examples: 1) I have to pick up the kids at daycare before it closes at 5:30 pm.  2) Daughter, Kristen, has a dance recital at 7:30 pm so I have to make dinner between daycare pickup and 7 pm.  3) Kids need to be in bed by 9:30 pm since it’s a school night and on…and on….and on…. and on….These are fairly mundane examples of someone responding to external events in living everyday life.  Sound familiar?  Most people live their lives this way everyday from birth to death.  In a sense they are “victims” of their outside influences.

Let me say it again: Thoughts control our reality.  Before I took this course, I started to suspect that my thoughts control reality.  If my thoughts were negative, I tended to attract negative.  If my thoughts were positive, I tended to attract positive.  Okay, that’s real general and so what?  What if our situations and the people in our lives manifest themselves based on our thoughts?

Before you start accusing me of messing with your longstanding theological beliefs, I ask that you  humor me for a moment.  If we could control our thoughts, could we also control that which becomes our reality – that which manifests?

I have been practicing meditation for the last four years.  I started it, only as a practice to become less stressed, healthier.  I didn’t originally have any plan to slow my thought process in order to manifest something, even if I could.  The Master Key Experience is targeted at training one’s self to control thoughts for the purposes of manifesting a better life.  As the picture above suggests, it’s all about focusing on the flowers and not getting lost in the surrounding weeds.  Stay tuned.





Week 1 – Finding My Purpose


The physical world is rigged!

That thought pierced my consciousness about five years ago.

I am a child of the seventies.  Both of my parents grew up without fathers during the Great Depression.  Money was tight.  Hard work and respect of authority figures were drilled into my brother, my sister, and me.  I remember being taught that honesty and hard work will ensure one’s success.

What a load of crap!  It’s not that hard work and honesty aren’t important.  It’s just that we have no control over what other human beings will say or do.  It took me a long time to come to that conclusion.

Only when I realized:

  •  Income is not necessarily tied to society’s perceived importance of the job (school teacher vs professional athlete);
  • Less than honorable individuals often achieve the status of “leader”;
  • Comparing my professional success or personal income to others is futile;

….that I had an epiphany!  I can only control what I think, say, and do. D’oh!  I cannot depend on others to love me or support me.  That’s the bad news.  The good news is that if I develop my strength within, I have everything that I need to be successful.

The question is, “How does one do this?” My answer was to try meditation.  I’ve listened to many people, knowledgeable in the art/science of meditation.  I’ve been an avid practitioner now for several years.  A strange thing happened as I sat quietly over and over again in the stillness.  I began to feel more centered – more grounded.  Instead of being scattered, with a million things to do, I began to refine that which is really important in my life.  More details to come in future blogs.

A few weeks ago, I was sent a link by one of my LinkedIn connections.  It was all about the Master Key Experience; I had never heard of it before.  I believe that there are no coincidences in life.  In my experience, everything seems to come from a Divine Master Plan.  Anyway, the basic principle of the course is that our thoughts control our actions.  We are creators of our own reality.  It has taken a long time for me to “wrap my head around” that concept.

Bottom line….I AM changing my life for the better.  I am blogging weekly for the next six months.  Thanks for joining my journey.